Eating Out, No Reservations Required.  By Sugar Lips

Eating Out, No Reservations Required. By Sugar Lips

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A straight female’s take on the polarizing position of 69, offering some creative variations if you’re still on the fence.

Whenever the sex position, 69--a mutual oral sex position, face to groin and resembles the numbers 6 and 9--is brought up in unabashedly, bawdy conversation, usually after several alcoholic beverages have been consumed, I observe two polarizing reactions. It is like eating cilantro, you either love it or hate it.

Personally, its not my favorite position. Please do not get me wrong, I like to give and receive, just not at the same time. For me, it’s awkward having body parts and their respective pleasure zones vulnerable and in your partner’s face. It’s not especially comfortable and literally gives me a pain in the neck. I have difficulty concentrating on my own pleasure when I’m focused on sucking, licking, penetrating, and teasing my partner. Get the picture? Too much multi-tasking. (Plus, I personally don’t like the suffocating experience of having two dangly testicles bouncing off my cheeks while a stiff cock is being thrust down my throat.) Sadly, I don’t feel in the moment when I am worried about failing at attempting to achieve a Hollywood-style shared climax. For those of you who can do that, I applaud you.

All that said, adding 69 to your repertoire can change things up in the bedroom and provide an opportunity, for those who love it, to give and receive oral sex at the same time. I have listed a few variations on the theme. Remember, orgasm doesn’t have to be the goal. Communicate and have fun experimenting. Here’s how:

CLASSIC 69

Have your partner lie down, flat on their back. Climb on top, so you are facing away from your partner. Your genitals should be facing your partner’s mouth and their genitals should be lined up with yours. (Head to tail.)

TIP: When your mouth needs a breather use your hands or keep a small vibrator handy. Use a pillow, rolled towel or sex wedge to take the pressure off your neck.

INVERTED CLASSIC

Same as Classic, except instead of the woman on top, the man is. It’s a bit rougher, ideal for the woman who likes to deep throat.

TIP: Prop a pillow beneath hips if your partner is having trouble reaching your bits.

SIDEWAYS

Both participants are lying on their sides. It’s more comfortable, easier to reach everything, good for height differences and nobody has to bear the weight of the other.

SWINGING

If you own a sex swing, this is a must try. One partner lays back in the swing with the straps placed around the back, buttocks and heels. The standing partner has legs firmly planted on the floor and bends over. From that position, both genitals are in each other’s faces. Dinner is now served!

SQUATTING

I’m warning you now that you need flexibility and strong quads for this position. Have your partner squat over you, instead of lying down. This is great if you like to incorporate a good booty slap.

STANDING

No lying down with this variation. You actually hold your partner upside down (not good if you get dizzy). Good luck pulling this one off!

THREESOME 69

As with any threesome you need a third person. While lying on your side with your partners in a triangle formation, each partner performs oral on the next person. In this formation, you will perform oral on one partner and receive from the other. Nobody gets left out, its all-inclusive.

Well, what do you think? Feel inspired to try something new? If it’s the oral part that just isn’t doing it for you or your partner, its no big deal. Stick to other sex acts such as penetrative intercourse, mutual masturbation, fingering—whatever tickles your fancy.

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