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Hello Crush,
Wherever you are, I hope that things are feeling more cozy than stormy, literally and figuratively.
Here’s a shot from the Vizcaya Museum in Miami, Florida, taken during a visit with a friend on a blustery day. The Vizcaya is a gilded age Mediterranean-style estate in Cocoanut Grove with tropical grounds that extend out into the Biscayne Bay. My friend and I loved wandering through the estate and its grounds. Worth a visit if you find yourself in Miami.
View from the lawn at The Vizcaya Museum & Gardens
Here in PrimeCrush headquarters we are gearing up for February. We haven’t made much of a fuss over Valentine’s month in past years, but this year I am in the mood for love. We are going all in and will be sharing stories, new and from our archives, on romantic love, platonic love, dating, marriage, sex and sex toys. To get you revved up, we have a new song from a CRUSH Reader for our F*ck Song series. We hope that it’ll inspire you to send us back one of your own. Readers love this series, and we’d love to offer them a fresh F*ck song in every February CRUSH Letter.
Thanks, CRUSHes. Let’s get it on.
In This Letter.
+Songs That Make You Wanna F*ck. A Compendium from the Readers of The Crush Letter. Revving up for Valentine’s month with a laid-back tig3r.
+Three Things I'm Crushing On. Etsy finds.
+A Valentine’s Gift Idea. Puffy Hearts.
+dishing. Charvet shirts, frazzled English woman interior aesthetic and what’s on my “watching” que.
+Our Song of the Week Is it better when it’s bad for you?
Songs That Make You Wanna F*ck. A Compendium from the Readers of The Crush Letter.
An occasional pop-up where we share the songs that make the readers of The Crush Letter want to bang. Got one?
Mr. Right Now by Tig3r Lewis
Submitted by CRUSH Reader “Why don’t you call me Lucy?”
Because sometimes you just want something easy in the moment. A guy who would be bad as a forever guy, but very good for a night, if you know what I mean. A guy who is more boy than man. Who leaves before you get up in the morning and will never, ever. greet you in the kitchen offering up a cup of coffee while earnestly asking “So what have you got in store for the day?”
Tiger Lewis is not a guy you want to bring home to your parents, and that’s precisely the point. He’s got a sultry slur in this song. But I can picture taking charge, and him letting me, wanting me to. Because Tiger is not a guy who likes to be in charge.
I don’t even know if I need him for real. It might be enough just to dream about banging a guy like that and feeling as if I were still in my twenties, hair still thick and long down my back, and sticking to my face as I move above him.
Scroll down to our “Song of the Week“ to listen to Mr. Right Now. But don’t forget to share your f*ck song, below. (Anonymously, if you want to be anonymous, like “Lucy.”)
Three Things I'm Crushing On. From Dish.
In this series, readers like you share recommendations for the things they love the most, right at this moment.
I go through periods when I lean on etsy hard. Then I’ll take months off. Then I’ll see something, like the raved-about Chanel Metiers d’art 2026 show this past January featuring a lot of ostrich feather trim and I’ll think, ”I can just go to etsy, find the trim and take one of the dresses I already own to a tailor and voila! For 1/8th the price.” And that will send me down the etsy rabbit hole. Here’s what all it brought up last time.
I bought the pink #55 ostrich trim and took it right over to my favorite tailor to add to the 20-year old red dress that I found in my storage unit last fall. (I was able to get away with wearing it that short back then, but now? It needs 2” ostrich trim.) I’ll send you a picture when I get it back from surgery.
This is all by way of making headway on my Achievable New Year’s Resolutions. (How are you doing on yours, CRUSHes?)
This Large Cappucino Straw Clutch
I saw a lot of chic women in Paris carrying large ”dumpling clutch bags” in leather this winter. This cappucino raffia one from Turkey feels similar - classic with a twist, for spring and summer.
This Oversized Striped Shirt with Bow & Puff Sleeves
I bought a gorgeous purple and white striped shirt with a bow at Maria de la Orden in Paris. I wasn’t going to, but my bestie thrust it on me while I was weak and vulnerable, undressed in the fitting room already, and said the purple style would be divine. It was. Since then I’ve been looking for a blue and white striped version for spring. I am really into all high collared shirt styles out right now - not only are they poetic, sensual and feminine, but they are face framing. I can’t wait to try this on.
And: A Valentine’s Gift Idea: A Big Puffy Heart CharmStanley
I think these big puffy heart charms from Roxanne Assoulin are so much fun, especially during winter to brighten up a wool sweater. This version is $80, and they offer smaller hearts and cords. I ordered an olive cord, a siena colored big puffy heart and a cloud colored small puffy heart for myself for Valentine’s Day! But I think one of these heart charms would be good for a romantic friend, a platonic friend, a daughter or mother.
dishing.
things that are getting me off these days.
I’m so jealous of this friend group. Amor Towles, author of A Gentleman in Moscow, has read a book a month with the same friends for 30 years. They do it as projects, he says, and right now their project is books from 1963 and 1964 because that’s when they were all born. Through those books they are able to enter the world that their parents were living in at the time. I’m jealous, yeah, although I’ll say I have my own cool book group going with friends from law school and our current “project” is The Safekeep.
Here’s what Beyonce did when JayZ cheated (this Instagram guy says) that made their marriage better. Cool if true. Sharing it because you guys are so into Belle Burden’s divorce memoir.
This NYT piece on custom-made Charvet shirts is making me feel like that is the one thing I missed out on during my recent trip to Paris. Merde! I guess I have to go back.
The ‘Frazzled English Woman Interior Aesthetic” is the name for the aesthetic in my NYC apartment, I just realized. On the one hand, I’m not amused. But on the other, what does one who cancels everything as soon as the latest issue of House and Garden UK drops expect?
What to watch. Why does it feel like everything dropped at once? There are so many good things to watch right now, I can’t keep up. The Night Manager Season 2, Drops of God Season 2, Shrinking Season 3, Industry Season 4, PONIEs and Land Man Season 2 (the only one I’ve actually finished). Not to mention, the new Jodi Foster thriller A Private Life sounds tantalizing (“frisky feminine film noir”), Carousel sounds intriguing (Chris Pine and Jenny Slate in a “lifting romance for grownups”), Is This Thing On has lots of possibility (middle-aged, impending divorce, stand-up comedy) and Song Sung Blue sounds fun (I mean, they had me at “Neil Diamond tribute band”).
Song of the Week
Mr. Right Now by Tiger Lewis
Don’t forget to send us your f*ck song!
And you know you can always write me at Dish@PrimeCrush, right?
XO,
Dish
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