Three Things I'm Crushing On.

Three Things I'm Crushing On.

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In this new series, readers like you share recommendations for the things they love the most, right at this moment.

3 Things I’m Crushing On: Dish Stanley, Master of Ceremonies, PrimeCrush

1.Nora Ephron’s Essay Collections,, about $14.83 each
I Feel Bad About My Neck
I Remember Nothing: And Other Reflections
Wallflower at the Orgy

Last year it was Joan Didion’s essays. For over a month now it’s been Nora’s. Once you spend a month with Nora’s essays, you can’t call her anything but Nora. This is not true of Didion, by the way. After a month with her essays no one would presume to call her Joan. Nora, though, is a chatty essayist. For Nora the personal is political. When she writes that her tits are too small, she is making a larger statement about women’s place in society. Small tits are something I knew nothing about until reading Nora, but what’s typical of a “Nora experience” (how I’d characterize reading her essays), is that while I’m with her on the objectification point I am also somehow relieved that I don’t have small tits. I worry that I make her sound trite, but she’s not. She is true. And a hoot to spend time with. It’s too late to ever be invited to one of her fabulous dinner parties, but partaking in her essays is the next best thing. Written in the ‘70s, ‘80s and ‘90s, they are still spot on about midlife and many other matters, and are as relevant, funny, devastating and entertaining as ever. Though I do now hate my neck. I didn’t need that, Nora.

2. New Zealand, Direct flight JFK to Auckland $7,998 Business Class
Air New Zealand

New Zealand finally opened back up to the world in August, and shortly thereafter Air New Zealand launched the first-ever direct flights between New York and Auckland. It is a long 17 hour flight - I know because I spent the month of October there. Well worth it. New Zealand was perfect for me: naturally gorgeous, effortlessly charming, warm and inviting, bountifully loving. Another short-term soul-pumping fling. Take me, kiwis.


Perhaps this sounds a little self-serving but I’m absolutely positively in love with our new TOPIX column.We’ve only just announced it but you can’t imagine the confessions I’m already hearing! Let me backtrack. TOPIX is a new column we’ll be publishing regularly in The Crush Letter to share anonymous stories about how we are really constructing our relationships in midlife now. Not Divorced But Not Really Married Either, Sleeping in Separate Wings, Platonic Friendships That Function Like (and Better Than) Marriages, Lifelong Romantic Partners Who Will Never Marry. “Just reading about what TOPIX will cover makes me feel validated,” wrote on CRUSH Reader. Oh, the places we’ll go!

Do you have a TOPIX essay you’d like to contribute? Send me all your ideas at

Three Things I'm Crushing On: Liza Lentini, Managing Editor at

1.Prada Cashmere Sweater, $1,720.00

I’ve tried to analyze why I love these sweaters so much and, moreover, why I prefer the men’s sweaters to women’s, but really it all comes down to one factor: comfort. I’m very tall, so generally men’s sweaters tend to be longer and looser and more comfortable for me. I don’t need to tell you why cashmere is so luxurious, but I will say, sometimes you really do get what you pay for, and this sweater is worth every penny. Treat it right and you’ll have a classic style you can wear forever.

2.INFINITIPRO by Conair Hot Air Paddle Styler Dryer Brush, $19.99

I have very fine hair, so when I finally found this under-twenty-dollar miracle cure for making my hair look like I stepped out of a salon, I pondered: “What the heck took me so long???” You don’t live to midlife without wasting way too much money on frustrating beauty fails, so when something actually works, it feels like a dream.

3.Revolution Pro Blur Stick Universal Face Primer, $15.00

When it comes to makeup, I’m easily the laziest person you’ll ever meet. I rarely wear it at all. However, I can’t deny that I look so much less like a swamp creature with just a little bit of makeup on in virtual meetings. What I love most about a great face primer is that you can grab it five minutes before the meeting starts, smear it all over your face and you’re (sort of) meeting-ready. It’s not heavy and I still look like myself in natural light. I found this one after my Milk Blur Stick ran out—they’re both quite excellent.

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