And While We're On the Topic of Divorce, I Don't Know Who Needs to Hear This But F*** It. Get A Divorce by Steve Kane gives an "optimistic roadmap for the divorce-curious". When you're in a place where your emotions are on full tilt, you need the grounding (and humor and hope) that this "Effit" book provides. Kane steps you through all the considerations - from kids to money to lawyers to sex and forgiveness. "Don't stay in a bad relationship over money," he argues, or at least if that's your biggest concern "price your happiness". (He provides a formula.) The exercise in honesty will definitely move your thinking forward. As you ponder your options, Kane provides "Playlists for a Breakup". So I have him to thank for reminding me of this gem from Lucinda's Williams best album Cartwheels On A Gravel Road, "Joy", in which a defiant, triumphant hard-rockin' Williams travels from Louisiana to Arkansas to chase down the happiness a betrayer had stolen from her. I have another favorite breakup song, also from Williams (who specializes in the genre), Changed the Lock On My Front Door. "I changed the number on my phone so you can't call me up at home / And you can't say those things to me that make me fall down on my knees."
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