What I Added to Up Next: What’s on Dish’s Nightstand in the PrimeCrush Bookshop.

What I Added to Up Next: What’s on Dish’s Nightstand in the PrimeCrush Bookshop.

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What I Added to Up Next: What’s on Dish’s Nightstand in the PrimeCrush Bookshop.

Based on a combination of recommendations over the holidays from friends and family who are “great readers,” as well as reviewers I admire, I’ve added these books to my reading stack, as well as some others. (And *you* (yes you!) can support PrimeCrush by buying these through our bookshop using the links below. Thank you, thank you, thank you!)

How to Be Old: Lessons in Living Boldly from the Accidental Icon For a certain set of women who got excited about Lyn Slater’s rise as a style influencer starting in 2015, the publication of her memoir chronicling the twists and turns in her life as she looks back on it post 70 is a hotly anticipated book.

How to Be Old: Lessons in Living Boldly from the Accidental Icon - Slater, Lyn

Ian Fleming: The Complete Man I am so thrilled to dive into this biography of the creator of James Bond, written by the only Fleming biographer to have access to private family papers. Fleming was, by many accounts, a rascal, but an utterly compelling one.

Ian Fleming: The Complete Man - Shakespeare, Nicholas

The Paris Novel I’ve read every book Ruth Reichl has published (not to mention most of her restaurant reviews from her days at the New York Times), so the idea of a novel focused on a woman whose life blossoms while she lives, eats and celebrates in Paris seems like a sure thrill.

The Paris Novel - Reichl, Ruth

Real Americans Two New Yorkers from opposite sides of the track meet in the late 1990’s and fall in love. The manuscript for this book reportedly sparked a bidding war among publishers, and it’s a much hyped book that a friend says lives up.

Real Self Care I was at a dinner party recently where three (three!) therapists said that they have recommended this to their patients as a book that is actually helpful and not just another stupid, meaningless self-help trope. And then I read this quote from Jessica DeFino: "This book is for anyone who's ever removed a 'relaxing' sheet mask only to realize it hasn't transformed you so much as your trash can." I’m always up for some self-improvement. And god help me I need it.

Table for Two There is no way that Towles’s latest book will not be discussed at social gatherings with most of my NYC friends this summer. (Although one close friend in NYC who knows him well and has been to numerous dinner parties he’s been at says he’s a bit of a bore.)

Table for Two: Fictions - Towles, Amor

The Wives: A Memoir I love the idea of a story that dives into the lives of military wives who keep their families and communities working while their husbands are stationed on foreign military bases over long periods of time. (Long time CRUSH Readers know that this is my own family’s story, as my father was a career officer in the US Air Force.)

The Wives: A Memoir - Gorrindo, Simone

A Court of Thorns and Roses Okay, this book is taking the world by storm. People—intelligent people!—have told me that it is un-put-down able. And CRUSH Readers, be forewarned, it’s basically fairy porn. Poolside reading, here we come.

A Court of Thorns and Roses - Maas, Sarah J.

A Hitch in Time by Christopher Hitchens I am as excited to dive into this new collection of previously published essays by Christopher Hitchens as I am for any single thing that awaits me this year. Here he covers politics (Thatcher, Clinton, Nixon, Kennedy) as well as culture (Tom Wolfe, the Academy Awards, P.G. Wodehouse), and all in his distinctive, thrashing style. (Which calls to mind the restauranteur Keith McNally’s recollections on his last dinner with Hitchens prior to his death: “[K]nowing he had a deadline for a Vanity Fair article the next morning, I imagined our dinner would be brief. It lasted five hours. He drank Johnny Walker scotch and red wine non-stop … enough to inebriate a basketball team … Next morning I called Christopher at 9am to remind him of his deadline. He’d written the article an hour earlier.”

A Hitch in Time: Reflections Ready for Reconsideration - Hitchens, Christopher

The Fraud By Zadie By Zadie Smith Historical fiction on the top of a lot of “best of 2023” lists, this is a Dickensian novel that involves a novelist, a long-lost heir, a trial and (evidently) much more.

The Fraud - Smith, Zadie

Kissinger By Walter Isaacson His recent death sent me to pick back up this sweeping 1992 biography of Kissinger’s personal and professional life.

Kissinger: A Biography (Reissue) - Isaacson, Walter

The Inevitability of Tragedy: Henry Kissinger and His World By Barry Gewen More a book in defense of Kissinger’s realpolitik approach to international relations than a biography, it’s a study on his belief that “the well-being of the state justified whatever means.”

The Inevitability of Tragedy: Henry Kissinger and His World - Gewen, Barry

The Secret Hours By Mick Herron. Based in Cold War Berlin (sold!), this is a standalone spy thriller from author of the Slough House series.

The Secret Hours - Herron, Mick

Excellent Advice for Living By Kevin Kelly. One of the ”favorite books of 2023” from The Marginalia‘s Maria Popova, who does a lot of wisdom-pondering. She shared this quote from Excellent Advice: “Listening well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love keep asking them ‘Is there more?’ until there is no more.”

Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I'd Known Earlier - Kelly, Kevin

The Wager By David Grant. A good friend called this account of mutiny in the 1700’s on a British shipping vessel “riveting.” And it was also on so many “best books of the year” lists I had to take note.

The Wager: A Tale of Shipwreck, Mutiny and Murder - Grann, David

This Is the Story of a Happy Marriage By Ann Patchett. CRUSH Reader Natalie sent me this recommendation, a collection of essays from Patchett, a favorite writer. I am a sucker for true stories that stretch from a disastrous early marriage to a later happy one.

This Is the Story of a Happy Marriage: A Reese's Book Club Pick - Patchett, Ann

A Fever in the Heartland: The Ku Klux Klan's Plot to Take Over America, and the Woman Who Stopped Them by Timothy Egan “Gripping,” was the word I read most often in reviews of this book.

A Fever in the Heartland: The Ku Klux Klan's Plot to Take Over America, and the Woman Who Stopped Them - Egan, Timothy

The Warmth of Other Suns: The Epic Story of America's Great Migration by Isabel Wilkerson There is not much I like understanding better than how we got to where we’re at here, in America.

The Warmth of Other Suns: The Epic Story of America's Great Migration - Wilkerson, Isabel

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