I am Dish, the Master of Ceremonies at PrimeCrush. I devour a lot about love and I'm sharing the best of what I find with you. The Crush Letter is a free weekly newsletter on everything love, sex and friendship. If The Crush Letter were live, we'd be at a cabaret. I’d be ushering onstage a titillating and oscillating roster of diverse performers - eye-opening, poignant, underground(ish), hopefully funny. I'd invite you to come to the cabaret. Take your seat. Behold the carnival of love in all its prosaic ordanariness and poetic glory. My hope is that the show will usher in a life with more, better love in it. That may require a shift in our understanding of what love is. If the show is really on fire, you'll nudge a little closer to whomever you’ve come with. Or if you're here solo, perhaps closer to somebody new? (Or not. After all, life is a cabaret!)
Dish is a nickname an ex used that stuck. As in, "What is the Dish hungry for tonight?" and "You're the dish, Dish." Ravenous appetite, that one. I dated him for a few very big years after my late husband died (at 41 yo. WTF, right?). Our breakup (and etc.) crushed my heart into shards as fine as the ice in your frozen daiquiri. But it also turned up the heat on my healing. (Healing journey. It's a trip.) I began to see that midlife is a period of profound transition for everyone (cancer/death, divorce, job moves and geographic moves, kids flying the coop) and in no area more than in our connections with others. Not just who and how, but often the very structures of our lives and relationships. I began to ask: When you're no longer getting your thrill from building (a family, a career, a house, status), what makes you high? I believe it comes in the form of relationships, friendships and community. Love is the drug. It's exciting as well as complicated, this stage.
I am not a professional sex or relationship expert, but rather an open-hearted disciple, student, listener and voyeur. While I'm certain that relational intelligence should be more of a conscious practice of daily life, I am still as confused as anyone by the chaotic unfolding of love. I'm working through that with The Crush Letter, by sharing the best of what I find and we create together. I am grateful for all of you who have joined.