The Crush Letter No. 42

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I'm Dish and I write a weekly newsletter about friendship, love, marriage and sex in midlife. Because they don't look like they used to. Hell yes, sign me up for the Dish.

Hello Crush,

Rolling into Christmas week, we've pulled together some highlights from our incredible year, inspired by “12 Days of Christmas”.   Thanks for being part of it.  Partake!

The 12 Days of PrimeCrush

Highlights from our year, inspired by "12 Days of Christmas". Enjoy!

On the First day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

Jane Boon at a sex party.

Revisit author Jane Boon’s column “Reports from the Edge”, including her account of being single at a sex party.

On the second day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

Adele’s brand new album.

In “Divorce, Baby, Divorce” writer and editor Liza Lentini explores why we love Adele so much.

On the third day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

“The Midlife Friendship Audit”

Dish Stanley explores why we need good friends—and why some don’t make the cut.

On the fourth day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

Songs meant for f*cking.

We introduced a series called “Songs That Make You Wanna F*ck” and we're reposting Christian Pan’s “Dead of Night” by Orville Peck here.

On the fifth day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

Dominatrix Class!

One of our most popular features of 2021: Colette Pervette’s Dominatrix Class: What I Am Learning That You Should Know, Too. (Part 1) By Lady Shade. There will be more to come in this series in the New Year.

On the sixth day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

Sexual debut stories.

Writer Lisa Ellex’s column “Quiver” features candid interviews of adults remembering their first time.

On the seventh day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

Smart and sexy in midlife.

In her personal essay “You’re Wearing a Turtleneck, Again?” Dish Stanley explores how to embrace all you are at this stage of life.  

On the eighth day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

The truth and setting yourself free.

KC Roth bravely shared her story of leaving her unhappy marriage and finding a renewed sexual awakening in Naked & Not Afraid.

On the ninth day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

A lovely love story.

Screenwriter Amy Ferris recalls meeting her cameraman husband on the movie set of a love story in “Movie Magic.”

On the tenth day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

Guccione on Hefner.

Bob Guccione Jr., whose father was the founder of Penthouse magazine, reflects on Hugh Hefner in a surprisingly touching essay.

On the eleventh day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

How to be charming.

A go-to how-to for any time of year.

On the twelfth day of PrimeCrush
My true love gave to me

A weekend with a sex therapist.

Five long-time married couples, a relationship and sex expert and one powerful weekend away. Read the interview from one of the couples here.

Song of the Week.

Bonnie Raitt & Charles Brown, Merry Christmas Baby (live on the Tonight Show with Jay Leno 1992).

Hope you're feelin' fine this week end, dearest CRUSH Readers.

Dish Stanley XO,

If you love me as much as I love you (and I really do love you!), then please help me grow by forwarding this {love} Letter to a friend!  And I'd love to have you join us on instagram, facebook & twitter.

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