Dear Dish ...

Dear Dish ...

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And with Mike's note, we begin our "letters to the editor" section.

Dear Dish,

Hi Dish,
… I learned the guitar at age 13, as I fell in love with Clouds. It seemed just the perfect song..lyrics and melody for a girl growing up fast, but still a child. I matured early and was looked upon as an adult, whereas I was so young and the two realms never seemed to align. The lyrics of finding it difficult to understand two sides of anything..parents, puppy love, classroom taunts, older brother hazing, growing breasts, feeling plump and odd…just trying to make sense of it all really spoke to me. They still do as life is so complex at any age, and perhaps even more as we age.
Thanks for the article on Joni. I read up on Clouds and am sending the below to you in case your readers would find it interesting.

Cheers, Diana

Dear Dish,
Your newsletter is the best thing about my Saturday mornings, and I really appreciate your work.

Thank you, Anita

Dear Dish,

I am an avid reader of The Crush letter. The Divorce Issue was BADASS and SO important!

Craig, Milwaukee

Dear Dish,

Love what you are doing with PrimeCrush

Sarah, Boston

Dear Dish,

Re: the 50th anniversary of Joni Mitchell's album Blue

Loved the Crush #18 this morning. Joni Mitchell’s Blue is unbelievably good, and relevant, after 50 yrs (crazy to write that).

Mark

Dear Mark,

Thank you! And with lyrics like "But when he's gone, me and them lonesome blues collide / The bed's too big, the frying pan's too wide" how can she not remain relevant? I mean, I was shrugging at my frying pan just this morning.

XO, Dish

Dear Dish,

Re: Midlife Friendship Audit: You Need Good Friends, But Who Is Good?

Brilliant CRUSH article on friendships! I forwarded it to a close gal friend ... we wrote off a mutual weak friend last night in comparing notes on how we felt about her and how she sucks energy from us etc.!

Dee

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Dear Dee,

Thank you! We try to sometimes give "actionable advice" (as they say). But I'm sorry to hear that you had to get actionable on it.

XO, Dish

{dated Friday night, 10:00 pm}

Dear Dish,

Re: Hand Job. Lube Up and Lend Yourself a Hand

Always insightful reads in the CRUSH Letter. I think women need to practice h and b jobs. It's a lost art.

"Got the Job Blues"

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Dear "Job Blues,"

Noted! And, oh dear.  I take it that you spent the evening offering your services up for - you know - practice?  It's not easy being that generous.

Rest up, buttercup.

XO, Dish

Dear Dish:

In The Crush Letter No. 6 you said (read: promised) that Summer would bring us post-pandemic orgies.

It's Summer.

Where you at? Can you drop a pin [on Google Maps]? Better yet, post the (or an) orgy address in your next issue. It seems like you've got a pretty fun crew with the CRUSH Readers!

Looking forward, Samantha

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Dear Samantha:

Thanks for being a die-hard Crush Reader! And for writing.

Okay. Well, in No 6 I did say that people like Dr. Nicholas Christakis, Yale Professor and author of Apollo's Arrow: The Profound and Enduring Impact of Coronavirus on the Way We Live were predicting orgies. But honestly (sadly) I haven't been invited to any. (Yet.?!)

However, I did "happen" to take note of a recent article in the New York Post about the re-opening of the world's most exclusive sex party: "NYC's elite sex club SNCTM to reopen with wild orgy masquerade." The accompanying photos are very "eyes wide shut." Perhpas you could take that up, as it were.

How to get through the velvet ropes into SNCTM? I haven't a clue. But if you do get in, our CRUSH Reader crew (yes, they're fun!) would love to read about it. (Our submission policy is here: Hit us with your best shot.)

Good luck! And let us know how the orgies are. (Really.)

XO, Dish

Dear Dish,

The piece by Lauren D. Weinstein The Dynamics of Friendship: Can Singlehood Withstand the Trials of Friends with Kids? is very thought provoking. Thanks for including it ... Being later to marry and not having my son until 41, I remember a lot of those feelings. Felt like it was spot on ...

XO, N.

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Dear Dish,

The piece by Lauren D. Weinstein The Dynamics of Friendship: Can Singlehood Withstand the Trials of Friends with Kids? is very thought provoking. Thanks for including it ... Being later to marry and not having my son until 41, I remember a lot of those feelings. Felt like it was spot on ...

XO, N.

Poll Results: "Not Without Samantha." In The Crush Letter No.9 we published a piece by "Definitely Not A Carrie" aptly titled And I Wondered ... Do We Really Need A Sex and the City Reboot? We asked you whether you'd be watching SATC and two-thirds of you said "No! I'm sorry. I can't. Don't hate me." One-third responded "Yes! I can't help but wonder." Here's what else we heard:

Not without Samantha.
At its best it was a show about a time - in Earth, and in life - which is over. Let it be.
I broke up with Carrie for the last time when she stepped into Mr. Big's car in Paris.
Seriously though, I would love to watch something sexy and funny on the complexities of dating in midlife. I'm not sure this will be it.

"Dear Dish,

The Crush Letter No. 9 was engaging as always.

No article about sex and music is complete without this*. Period.

XO, @miketrap

*Roxy Music's Avalon

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Dear Mike,

The whole Avalon album {Roxy Music}? Why?

XO, Dish

Dish,

The whole album is just wonderful, at turns tender, energetic, sophisticated, and gritty. It's a walk up Columbus Avenue in New York, on a Fall evening ripe with youthful possibility. The song Avalon in particular has a dreamy quality to it that just helps you escape yourself, as does To Turn You On.

Could be it just reminds me of that time, but I really do think there's something in the music, as in so much of Brian Ferry's later work.

Enjoy.

Mike

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Mike,

Ummm. Yeah, I did enjoy that. Hopefully, it was good for my iroha + tori too.

Dish

{Not really. I did not really actually write that last part back to Mike. If I had, who knows whether he would ever write to Dear Dish again. And he is the guy who gave us his Bad Girl Pasta Recipe a couple weeks ago. So we need him in our Crush community. However dear Crush readers, between you and me (don't tell Mike!), that is a precisely accurate state of affairs. Read about my relationship with my iroha + tori here.}

Got something to get off your chest? I'd love to hear it. Write to Dear Dish at dish@primecrush.com.



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